We are bombarded with instructions to fill up our lives: create an event on Facebook and invite your friends, exercise for 30 minutes, eat your 5 a day, get your body beach beautiful. In the minutes since I’ve started writing, Oxfam have emailed me to ask if I’m ready to party, my local health clinic has invited me to five different Tai Chi, Yoga and mediation classes and my library has asked me to a board games club. How about if I suggested the most important thing you can